Communication Skills: Asking the right question

Jack and Max are walking from religious service. Jack wonders whether it would be all right
to smoke while praying.
Max replies, "Why don't you ask the Priest?" So Jack goes up to the Priest and asks,
"Father, may I smoke while I pray?"
The Priest replies, "No, my son, you may not! That's utter disrespect to our religion."
Jack goes back to his friend and tells him what the good Priest told him. Max says, "I'm not
Surprised. You asked the wrong question.. Let me try."
And so Max goes up to the Priest and asks, "Father, may I pray while I smoke?"
To which the Priest eagerly replies, "By all means, my son. By all means. You can always pray
Whenever you want to."

Moral of the story is...

The reply you get depends on the question you ask

Plunging Into The Deep…

Life can take us on a roller coaster ride full of highs and lows and twists and turns. Even for those of us who enjoy unexpected thrills, it’s frightening to suddenly find ourselves heading for a deep plunge. Yet, it happens to all of us. At these moments, it is important to remember that you are not alone in your experiences. No matter how brave, strong, or levelheaded we are, sometimes, we all get scared.

Our fears may revolve around our physical safety, particularly if we are not feeling well, living under difficult circumstances, or doing work that exposes us to hazardous conditions. Or, we may be experiencing financial woes that are causing us to be fearful about making ends meet. We may also fear the loss of a loved one who is sick, or we may be scared of never finding someone special to spend our life with. We may be scared to start at a new school, begin a different job, move to a new town, or meet new people. Whatever our fears are, they are valid, and we do not need to feel ashamed or embarrassed that we are, at times, afraid.

It may be comforting to know that everyone gets scared, and it is perfectly OK. Sometimes just acknowledging our fears is enough to make us feel better. And while it sometimes takes a lot more to ease our mind, we can console ourselves with the knowledge that life can be scary at times. Giving ourselves permission to be scared lets us move through our fears so we can let it go. It also makes it alright to share our fears with others. Sharing our apprehensions with other people can make our fears less overwhelming because we are not letting them grow inside of us as pent up emotions. Sharing our fears also can lighten our burden because we are not carrying our worries all by ourselves. Remember that you are not alone

People only see what they are prepared to see

Dream of Flight…

In the late 1800s, a well-known bishop was traveling the United States, speaking to religious and academic leaders.

At one of his stops, he was invited to have dinner with some prominent leaders. During the dinner he was asked, "What do you think the future holds for us?"

After a moment’s pause, he replied, "The future is bleak, and in my opinion, we have discovered all there is to discover, created all there is to create, and invented all there is to invent."

One of the leaders commented, "I think someday, man shall learn to fly like the birds."

To this, the bishop replied, "You are mad, flight is only reserved for the angels." With that statement he stormed out of the room.

The good news was that the bishop’s last name was Wright!

Years later, his two sons Orville and Wilbur, made the dream of flying real on the windswept salt marshes of Kitty Hawk.

~ Author Unknown

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Rules for Women by Men!

We always hear " the rules " from the female side.
Now here are the rules from the male side. These are our rules!

Please note.. These are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE!

1. Men are NOT mind readers.

1. Shopping is NOT a sport. And no, we are never going to think of it that way.

1. Crying is blackmail.

1. Ask for what you want.

• Let us be clear on this one:
• Subtle hints do not work!
• Strong hints do not work!
• Obvious hints do not work!
• Just say it!

1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question.

1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for.

1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a Problem. See a doctor.

1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 Days.

1. If you won't dress like the Victoria 's Secret girls, don't Expect us to act like soap opera guys.

1. If you think you're fat, you probably are. Don't ask us.

1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one

1. You can either ask us to do something Or tell us how you want it done. Not both.
If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself.

1. Whenever possible, Please say whatever you have to say during commercials.

1. Christopher Columbus did NOT need directions and neither do we.

1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings.
Peach, for example, is a fruit, not A color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is.

1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," We will act like nothing's wrong.
We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle.

1. If you ask a question you don't want an answer to, Expect an answer you don't want to hear.

1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really .

1. Don't ask us what we're thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as Cricket,baseball, the shotgun formation, or golf.and

1. You have enough clothes.

1. You have too many shoes.

1. I am in shape. Round IS a shape!

1. Thank you for reading this.
Yes, I know, I have to sleep on the couch tonight

The Value of Life!

On my way back from my office... riding in full swing @ 90s I saw a man lying under a Bullet at the end of the road... The place is Mumbai Ahmedabad National Highway, once known to be notorious for laying traps for people and looting them.
The moment I saw the man and the bike, I slowed down and parked the bike on the end, knowing very well that I may be walking into a trap... but what the heck.... a busy, scary road like that... and thats the last thing you would want to see...

Luckily I see some people in a cycle running towards the man as well... The man struggling to keep the bullet of his body....

I didnt remove my gear or anything, cause I knew I would either need it or it would waste some precious time.

I ran to the man, shouted if he needs some help ( I know a crazy thing to do, but that was my way of re assuring that he was 'conscious')

He looked at me in a gaze and I knew he wouldnt say anything... he tried mumbling something... I knew what he meant.... I lifted the bullet up and he slowly struggled but got on his foot!

I asked him if he was hurt, it seems like my words were too complicated for him.... he simply couldnt gather what I said.... for a second I had my heart in my mouth as the guy had carefully tucked his helmet on the RVM and was lidless....I was hoping he didnt hurt his head... I have a close friend who met with an accident a few years ago... and he died because of bad blow to his head.... everything in my past seemed to appear in a short flashback mode in my head!

I came out of that trance and asked him again "Are you hurt?"

"No.." came the answer




Then I realised.... this guy was fully loaded.... (with booze) stinking like hell...

For the first five minutes, My head had kind of a lot of respect build for him... it took a few seconds for that to break...

Now, this guys could barely talk or stand straight but wanted to ride back to some place.... and here I was trying to stop a 6ft something and somewhere close to 100KGs of a DRUNK jacka$$. I realized if he was back on the bullet, he would not only die himself but probably get someone killed too....

Luckily, his phone rang... because he wasnt able to listen or say anything, he handed the phone to me... I was busy holding the bike so I asked the other guy to talk to the person calling.

He was prompt and informed about the location and the events that had happened.... We were told to wait there for 10 minutes and he would be there.... almost 10 minutes later nothing happened.... and the big fella wanted to get back on the bike...

He started to fire up the bike, and i switched it off.... he didnt realize that I had turned the keys to off position, and he kept trying to start the bike...

Usually on this route I see quite some amount of cops monitoring the road, but there wasnt any one today! I tried calling the 100 number but it freaking gives a BUSY response!!!

I said the other guys to hold on to the big fella and not let him ride and I will be back after getting some cops from the nearest chowki... but those guys were simply scared and said we waited here only because you are waiting...

So here I am stuck with this big jacka$$ praying for the cops to come....

Now the big fella started getting restless and giving me and other cold and dreadful looks... another call and he says he is on his way and nobody needs to come here and all! And he simply started the bike and started a wavy ride!

Now those of you who know how busy this highway gets with heavy vehicles, it was not funny. I mean I knew he is an idiot but I cant see him die man!

So I ride behind him, carefully ensuring that the other vehicles dont come too near him... a couple of scary turns and seemingly closed calls later, its the place where I need to take a turn for my home.

I had like 10 seconds to decide what to do?
Would be interesting to know what you would have done....

I turned to my route... my decision was simple, when that person himself doest value his life then why should i?
but still I ran like hell... went to the chowki and informed the cops there...

The cops were surprised to see a fully geared commuter parking the bike and running towards them!
The cops were pretty disgusted with what I had to say, but lone of them said that luckily the highway patrol has just gone on the route.... and said a couple of small but sorry lines... "there are very few people who stop and bother about others... luckily for that guy I was there, but who the hell cares.. look at that man himself he doesnt know what to do and what not to when he is riding (a bike like bullet)! "

Sad but true...
1) there are very few people who stop and bother about others
2) who the hell cares.. he doesnt know what to do and what not to when he is riding

I havent had so many emotions switching in my head for a long time now... fear, compassion, disgust, confusion et all!
Even while I type, I just pray that that guys must have reached safely home and he quit drinking, atleast when he rides!